In this modern age, we are expected to continually ‘up’ ourselves. We feel an enormous weight of expectation that we should be seen to be great – whatever the fuck that looks like… We have the expectation from the stories and images that we are inundated with through media, that we need to be prettier, be leaner, be more muscular, be smarter, and be richer… But all these ‘ers’ require that we create a façade of being superior to others. Of course, we can create these facades, but all that leads to is all of us seeing only the collective façades that we and others project, not the reality of our own beautiful yet flawed existences. These façades of perfection pervade social media; the perfect holiday, the perfect smoothie, the perfect ass…
This environment of media can make us feel like crap! Our baseline self-image can become one of feeling perpetually unworthy (of love, of respect, of appreciation, or of happiness) because we have created an inherent expectation of a completely unrealistic and unrealisable ‘perfection’. We might then begin to seek to feel better by continuing to try, and try again, ad infinitum, to create our own façades of perfection.
But it’s bullshit.
There is always someone better at something than you and always someone worse.
‘What’ you are is completely unimportant. You’re not some special little flower that should be respected and appreciated as of right. You gotta earn that shit! What you do is the only metric for how you should be perceived. Now, I’m not suggesting that there shouldn’t be baseline respect for all – of course, there should be. We should (and can) love everyone, as all human beings are worthy of being on this planet and have the basic rights and considerations that we would expect for ourselves.
BUT, once we begin to feel entitled to anything when we feel outraged that we’re not loved enough, or respected enough, or appreciated enough, we’re simply wasting our time. That’s when you need to drop that shit and actually do something!
Do something that fills with you with passion and purpose. Do something that helps others and helps the planet.
Find a passion, do it well, forget about whether or not
you’ll become famous, or loved by others. DO IT FOR YOURSELF. So, be humble.
Forget about the outcomes of fame and notoriety and forget about what people
will think of you. Stop craving others love and respect and trying to gather
it! Simply DO the right thing. BE a good person. LIVE to your values and the
results will present themselves.
It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves. You don’t have to be a fantastic hero to do certain things. You can be just an ordinary chap, sufficiently motivated to reach challenging goals. People do not decide to become extraordinary. They decide to accomplish extraordinary thingsSir Edmund Hilary